I broke up with my girlfriend last night. And I know how much the professor said he wanted us to write about this kinda thing in our blog so here goes. We had a number of difficulties in our relationship. There was a point where I wanted to change her into the woman I wanted but I soon made the realization that it was not the right thing to do. Sure if you want to better someone and help them mature by changing a few bad habits but not their entire person. I got her off drugs, doing well in school and took the abusive boyfriend out of the picture. Of course it wasn't just all me, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. She was willing and improved a great deal her self. I bite of more than I could chew when I tried to stop her from yelling nagging, complaning or wanting to have her way all the time. The boyfriend and drugs are a few years but the behaviors she's learned a a lifetime of conditioning that I wouldn't be able to undo simply because her mind is closed and its like trying to plug a wire into a place that doesn't even have an outlet. All attempts of logic and reasoning fail and she does what she feels or what her emotions tell her to do.
I know it's like I described almost every woman on the earth but the severity of this is overwhelming for me. Is this where nature versus nurture comes in? A hormonal imbalance in females that makes them notorious for emotional and illogical behavior? Or is it just a coincidence that a large percentage of the NY woman I've meet happen to have these attributes? For all I know woman on the other side of the world are known for their calmness and logical thinking. Regardless I must digress and continue to handle the problem at hand.
pondering,
Sam E.
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