Big 30

My 30th blog, a reason to celebrate. I still think I need 35 to be adequate. Professor Baldwin brought up an interesting point in class. The difference between a friend and a lover and a classmate of mine said that you can be truthful with a friend, his point was shot down but I felt that he was certainly onto something. I agreed with him but felt his opinion needed a little re-wording. Then I thought of a familiar Oscar Wilde quote that I've grown to appreciate more and more over the years. It goes as follows:

“But what is the good of friendship if one cannot say exactly what one means? Anybody can say charming things and try to please and to flatter, but a true friend always says unpleasant things, and does not mind giving pain. Indeed, if he is a really true friend he prefers it, for he knows that then he is doing good.”
-Oscar Wilde

I notice with my acquaintances my aim is too wooh or please them. But with friends, they are the only people you cn turn to with genuine problems. And if you can't then they probably aren't true friends. Then how does one deal with a lover? With secrecy and deception? I would hope not but the answer lies somewhere in between. Oscar Wilde was a notorious cynic and some time's I find it hard to disagree with his sound logical and witty claims. He said this about the relationship between a man and woman

"A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her."


optimist,

Sam E.